For the longest time, we focused on what we knew we were supposed to get from the other, but were not. Or we focused on what we were not supposed to get from the other, but were. Living angrily because we focused on our rights, brought us a ton of misery.
We made a shift so that we thought more about the roles of husbands and wives, but it didn’t take us long to focus on the role of the other and how they weren’t living up to it. More misery.
Finally, we realized that our responsibility is to flesh out our own roles. We quit moaning about what we wanted, but didn’t get. We started rejoicing in what we were called to give. And we give it all we’ve got out of reverence for Christ.
Much, much better!