She read some books that helped her understand her needs. Now that she could articulate them, she told her husband what they were and that if he would just meet her love needs, she would out love him!
He did a decent job the first week, she responded happily, let him know where he could improve. The second week, he wasn’t much better, and the third week was even worse.
She found herself angry at him. “These aren’t difficult,” she told herself and him.
“What’s wrong! Don’t you love me?”
“Of course, I love you,” he replied.” I love you with all of my heart!”
“I feel like I’m falling out of love with you,” she told him. “what are you going to do about it?”
Both felt trapped. She couldn’t feel love for him because he didn’t meet her love needs. He could’t do anything right; and though he loved her, she would never believe it.
Want a message of real freedom? Here it is: You don’t have to count on anybody else to meet your needs. You and God can take care of that! And then, when you have met your own needs, the other people in your life can fulfill some of your desires; but if they don’t for some reason, you aren’t empty. And the best feeling of all? you aren’t needy.
That’s a great feeling!