We’ve read a lot recently from people who are praying for a turn-around in their marriage and are not seeing the results they desire. Not only are they sad about the continued struggle in the relationship, but they are losing their belief in the power of prayer.
When the positive change you are praying for doesn’t seem to be happening, keep in mind that God’s work might not be absent as much as it might be unseen to you. God’s work is not always a quick fix. Some of his work has taken years to accomplish.
It’s also true, though, that there are only a few times recorded in the Bible when God manipulated someone’s heart to make them do something that they were not otherwise bent to do. When what we are praying for demands repentance by somebody else – the spouse you want to see change, for example – the change might not ever happen. People are changing every day, but not every person changes.
Pray for your spouse to repent. Pray for your marriage to thrive. Be sure, too, that you are praying for God to change you. Changing you will still demand some repentance, but it will be in the life of someone you can actually impact.
Pray without ceasing (1 Thess. 5:17).
Richard and JeannaLynn May
Marriage Missionaries and Coaches