All of us who are married had some expectations about married life that have been unmet. We haven’t all talked rationally, lovingly, and intentionally about them though. Give your spouse a chance to express some of their unmet expectations. Listen carefully, without defense, and with enough curiosity that you invite conversation with the words, “Tell me more.” This isn’t an exercise to reveal how you’ve goofed up, so don’t take it that way. It is an opportunity for you to learn how you might bring a smile to your spouse’s face – which will likely bring a smile to yours.